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Hi, friend. I'm going quiet on this platform for a

Hi, friend. I'm going quiet on this platform for a few weeks. I'm deep in building something new and exciting and I want to give it my full creative energy. If you want to stay connected in the meantime, come find me on TikTok where I'm most active right now → @lindavillines, tiktok.com/@lindavillines
I'll be back with some exciting things to share. ♥️

A trauma bond can feel like soul recognition when

A trauma bond can feel like soul recognition when your body is recognizing a wound it already knows.
If you checked 2 or more: Your nervous system is recognizing your earliest experiences of love. It feels like destiny because it feels familiar. But familiar isn't fate. It's just a pattern your body knows.
That’s the part that can be confusing because the connection feels intense, familiar, electric, impossible to ignore, and your mind starts building a deep and spiritual meaning around it.
But if your nervous system is focused on them, their behavior, their choices, what they do or don't do, and whether they finally choose you, that’s not your soul nudging you toward "the one".
Your soul will never ask you to disappear for love.
What's happening is an old relational pattern asking to be seen clearly and resolved.
Love can be deep and spiritual without making you abandon yourself or your peace.
Listen to the latest episode of The Simple Source to learn the difference between a true soul bond and trauma bond.

Codependency can make love feel like proving yours

Codependency can make love feel like proving yourself instead of partnering as your highest self.
When you’re waiting for someone else to validate, choose, reassure, text back, awaken you, or finally show up for you before you can feel safe being your full self, that connection has become the source of your wholeness.
Healthy, interdependent love doesn’t require you to disappear inside someone else's moods, wounds, readiness, or potential.
Healthy, interdependent love is love your body can trust because you trust yourself without or without that connection.
In codependent relationships, the love is transactional — "I validate your worth so you can validate my worth."
That's why your soul is never settled.
Interdependence is when your soul can breath in love because you're not reliant on the other person to feel lovable.
Listen to the latest episode of The Simple Source for the deeper truth about that relationship that's consuming you.

Being selfish is how stopped seeking external vali

Being selfish is how stopped seeking external validation and started giving it to myself.
How I healed decades of mental, emotional, physical, and sexual trauma.
How I learned to fiercely love every version of me (past, present, future) with zero conditions.
How I started reclaiming my wellbeing, abundance, and love with genuine self-worth instead of disguised desperation.
And ultimately how I've become embodied as my highest self in daily life.
After I started living for me.
My joy. My freedom. My peace. My passions.If you cringe at being perceived as "selfish"... been there.
We've all been conditioned to believe that being selfish is an unsavory trait.
Especially if you grew up to identify as the helpful one, the kind one, the easy one, the one who didn't make a fuss.
And that's why even when you try to get your needs met and set boundaries (despite knowing they're good for you) you feel like you're being selfish.
But being selfish is the only way your needs are met without compromise, without settling, and without reinforcing to your nervous system that you have to stay small and compliant to be loved.
But once your mind-body system believes you're allowed to choose yourself—loudly, without apology, and on purpose—you stop giving a shit about what other people think of you because you'll be healthier and happier than ever before.
Learn why being selfish is the most empowering thing you can do for healthy boundaries in the latest episode of my podcast, The Simple Source. Available on all platforms.

A lot of boundaries are actually requests for exte

A lot of boundaries are actually requests for external validation. You think you're asking for respect, space, or consideration. But underneath the request, your nervous system and inner child are asking "do you see me", "do you love what you see", "will you still love me if I have this need", and "are you capable of loving me?"
When boundaries are extensions are codependency, you're not really setting a boundary. You're asking for someone to confirm if you're lovable, if your needs matter, and if you matter.
And no boundary built on top of "please love me" is going to be healthy or hold. Because the other person can't validate what only you can reclaim for yourself.
Learn why to set boundaries from self-worth and self-love in the latest episode of my podcast, The Simple Source. Available on all major platforms.

I was the competent, responsible child. I came hom

I was the competent, responsible child. I came home from school and finished every homework assignment before I did anything else.
I didn't want to disappoint anyone—my teachers, my parents, myself... I didn't want to fail because that meant punishment, shame, and rejection.
Decades later, that overachieving kid became the young adult who said yes to every favor, made all the plans for the group, remembered every birthday, noticed all the little things, and held everyone's shit.
Then I learned to love myself.
To be myself. To heal. To be free of my past.
To not give a shit.
Now, if you give me a friend-assignment, ask me to do something, want a favor, it's not an automatic yes. It's a "If my true self says yes, then it's a yes. If not, I'm not apologizing."
The competent little Linda was capable but her truth was she was deeply unhappy.
The "I love myself more" healed, mature adult Linda skips around her house because her truth is she doesn't fear mistakes anymore.
Living in your truth is not only far less stressful, but gives you that skipping around energy that your little you needs.
Drop PODCAST below and I’ll send you my podcast with the full episode about why shrinking yourself
costs you more than you think.

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